To Be Free You Must Feel Like A Loser

23rd Mar 2012 | Leave a remark To Be Free You Must Feel Like a Loser One of the explanations I gave up my safe, nicely paid ‘good’ job in consulting is that I wanted to be free. I wanted freedom to work on issues I felt mattered more than promoting some crappy IT system to a client who didn’t actually need it. (Sorry â€" I should have stated ‘much more’ there I think). I wished the freedom to work when, how and where I selected. The first handful of occasions I missed rush hour were quite good. It felt like a relief from the treadmill. But from then on I bear in mind, whenever I went into town at 11am or came home at 3pm I felt like a loser. I felt like I’d dropped out, failed. I definitely didn't ‘feel’ free. Now some years have handed and once in a while I nonetheless do miss rush hour and I nonetheless get those pangs of guilt and failure. But â€" primarily due to what I learned from my work as a psychologist and significantly ACT â€" I recognise those feelings are just the flipside of my freedom value. Freedom is one thing that I p ursue in actual life, not some internal feeling I am trying to handle or attain. How freedom really feels varies â€" typically it feels great, often it doesn’t. And that’s fine, because ultimately I am prepared to really feel what I really feel if I get to reside my values. Like the flipside of a coin, I can’t have one with out the other. Career Change Tags: Dealing with troublesome thoughts and feelings, Experiential avoidance, Values Your e mail tackle will not be revealed. Required fields are marked * Comment Name * Email * Website Save my name, email, and website on this browser for the subsequent time I comment. This website makes use of Akismet to cut back spam. Learn how your remark knowledge is processed. « The Flipside of your Values... The Age of Outrospection... »